Time for the Oscars: Do You Log Family Time Seeing the Nominees?

In “Hugo,” an orphan heads off on an adventure in Paris.


Watching movies is possibly one of America’s favorite pastimes (after baseball, of course!).

Films allow us to escape reality for a couple of hours while spending time together with our significant others, friends, children or families. And if we are lucky, taking in a film may teach us a thing or two about history and the human spirit (and sadly, show us the uglier side of reality, too).

The best the film industry has to offer is celebrated each year with several award presentations, but since its inception in 1929, no other ceremony has been more significant than the Oscars, which are coming up fast on Feb. 26.

This year, Martin Scorsese’s Hugo got the most nominations, over other films like The Descendants, The Help and Moneyball. The children’s movie garnered 11 nominations, including best picture, director and adapted screenplay. 

For movie aficionados, part of the excitement leading up to the big awards is making an effort to watch all the films to verify if the voters share the same opinions as movie-goers – the Oscars also serve as a good exercise to find out if the increasingly expensive tickets were money well spent.

Having a family film leading the nominees is a sign that good, sound, wholesome entertainment can be recognized. If you are a devoted movie buff, did you make an effort to see all the Oscar-nominated films – including taking the kids to watch Hugo, and the other the family-oriented films up for the Oscars?

Tonia Accetta: I have childhood memories of staying up late into the night, curled up with my parents and sisters to watch the Oscars live from L.A. We would be so excited about it, even though we had not seen any of the movies that were nominated. I now watch with my family, making a game out of it, by trying to predict the winners in advance. This year we have only seen two of the best-picture nominees, War Horse, which we loved, and The Help.

Hugo did not appeal to us as a family because of the added cost to see a movie in 3D. Some years there is a clear winner that picks up all the awards, but this year they may spread the honors out between many great movies and that not only makes it harder to predict, but also a bit more fun to watch live. If they included animated films in the best-picture category then The Adventures of Tin Tin would surely join the list of nominees.

Tam Dorow: My 10-year-old son is the movie consumer in our home – actually, he’s the only one ever going to the movie theaters. He loves movies and quoting lines from movies. He does not read what the critics have to say, he just forms his own opinion. He’s only read one of the books made into movies this year, no, it was not The Help, it was The Invention of Hugo Cabret. Granted, he read this book a few years ago, but I’m confident his memory is sharp. At the time he was not overwhelmed with the book and the same could be said of his impression of the movie. He enjoyed it, but he has not talked about it and defintely has not quoted from it. All the fancy cinematography and references to classic movies are lost on him.

His favorite movie this year is Moneyball. His love of baseball may have a lot to do with it. His priority in ranking movies are: The story (I’m assuming the associated screenplay), acting, scenes and special effects.

I, too, have very pedestrian taste in movies; I profess my ignorance of the genre. I watch for the escapism, compelling story and embarrassingly, sometimes just to see beautiful people dressed up in beautiful things: pure entertainment. I find my friends’ assessments of a movie much more relevant than the Oscar picks.

Suzette Valle: My parents instilled the love of films in me, and fortunately my husband and I share this common interest. We not only enjoy the escapism movies offer, but we look forward to watching powerful films that make us think.
Sometimes we’ll watch a film like Mission Impossible just for the thrill, but most of the time it’s movies we have a connection with like Moneyball or Iron Lady that hit home with us. And if we feel taken after being lured in by a good trailer to watch a bad movie like Bad Teacher, we’ll be the first to warn friends to skip it and make it a rental!

However, this seems to be an exceptional year for movies. We’ve seen almost the entire list of nominees for Best Picture except for Hugo, but now that the film is so lauded, we hope to remedy this before the Oscar broadcast!


The parents:

Tonia Accetta is stay-at-home mom of a teenage boy and a preteen girl. She moved to Coronado in 2002 with her husband of 15 years.

 Tam Dorow emigrated from Vietnam when she was 10. She worked at all of the Big 3 U.S. car companies and has been a stay-at-home mom of two for the last 10 years.

Suzette Valle is a 20-year Coronado resident who was recognized by Time Warner as one of the local “50 Best Moms” in 2006. She has appeared on the Dr. Phil Show and blogs at MamarazziKnowsBest.com.

About this column: Parents talk about issues important to moms and dads.


  • Anonymous

    Should I give up my hobby of watching movies?
    I especially love watching the Oscar movies. I try to see all of the nominees each year. However, it’s been harder to do because my husband isn’t into movies like me. We have a small child and I ask him to help so I can go to the movies. He says no and usually will not go with me either. It’s hard to watch DVDs at home also. We work so much and it’s time consuming, but it’s only for a few weeks a year and I minimize time away from family as much as possible (such as watching DVDs after everyone is asleep). I think it’s time to give it up, but I makes me so incredibly sad to have to give up something I love to do so much. I’m just tired of having to fight for it. Advice?

  • Rev. Craig

    It’s ok to have different interest than your husband. If the both of you were exactly alike, things would be boring. Maybe a good compromise would be to find one of your friends that enjoys movies as much as you do and have a movie night with them
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  • Meeta

    omg , don’t ever give up on movies !!! just watch it when they arenot around or are busy with sthgelse
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  • miray2009

    If its makes you happyby watching movies and you think it helps you to de stress because of so many works in a day so go on, it is you who can control of yourself, if that is your routine before so why giving up to the hubby you love to do before? as long as you have time for your kids and husband and household chores.why not sayinhg your husband to have a date with him just you and him by watching movies? just you and your hubby? maybe he wants you to treat him and after that you eat out and have dinner? its sounds romantic I guess.
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  • Zecaitlinx

    Give up if your getting tired of watcching movies, its your deccision if you want to or not, if you enjoy it but are getting bored of them stop a little but if you still enjoy watching them then dont give up, its your deccision. You and your husband should make a comprimise and should have say: 1 night a week when he watched the child and you go out, or your could go to see a kids film with your child, then you coild be doing what you love and bonding.
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  • jac the hat

    see if you can get a babysitter you do deserve to go out to keep up your interests otherwise we become cabbaged by small talk. Show him this thread – You will end up resentful and stir crazy and not caring what you cook for him and fall out of love if he is so intractable. Will your mum babysit? – go on be a bit more independent and assert your rights you dont need his permission youre a grown woman and mother of his child and he should be cherishing you.
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  • Miz T

    I’m the movie-goer in the family. Like you, I try to see all the Oscar nominees, at least the ones nominated for the "big" awards. My late husband liked action movies and some comedies, and he was adamant that most of the Oscar nominees were unappealing to him. I prefer the theater experience; he preferred DVDs so he could rewind and watch certain scenes over and over. Clearly, our preferred film experiences were incompatible.

    Rather than fight about it, though, we worked out compromises over the years. When we had kids at home, he would do something with the kids while I went to a matinee (sometimes alone, sometimes with friends). When child care wasn’t an issue, I did the movie-going while he pursued one of his hobbies, usually going on a motorcycle ride with other bikers (I never liked riding). Sometimes we went to the theater together and saw different films. And sometimes we actually went together and enjoyed the same movie: "Mystic River" is one I recall that appealed to both of us, and we both loved "kid" movies like "Up," to which we took the whole family.

    My answer to your question is, "No, don’t give up your movie hobby." In fact, if you were to give it up, you would probably resent having "had" to do so in order to "keep peace." Go, enjoy yourself, and recognize that you and your husband are two individuals with different likes and dislikes–you’re not joined at the hip and unable to spend time apart. My husband died 16 months ago, and while I miss him every single day, I have no regrets whatsoever that we had separate likes and dislikes and that we made room in our lives for our separate interests as well as for our time together.

    As Kalil Ghibran said, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
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