Boys, Men: Find Out How to Help Prevent Domestic Violence Locally

In the community, many service providers collaborate and advocate as partners in their prevention efforts to help stop domestic violence abuse by providing services, resources and programs. Education and prevention efforts are vitally important along with intervention and sustainability.

As local families are offered safety, services and assistance away from someone who is hurting them, help and healing is also offered to family members or friends who may witness the violence or intervene in helping to remove someone from an abusive relationship. We all must continue to work together as advocates to prevent domestic violence and put a stop to the pain and abuse.

Operation For Hope Foundation would like to highlight organizations and groups in San Diego and nationally who are taking the lead in domestic violence prevention efforts in reaching out to all with an extra focus on engaging and educating boys and men.

As part of the prevention efforts, organizations that help provide leadership, vision and resources for engaging boys and men about sharing their responsibilities as prevention partners are leading the efforts by playing an active role in helping to prevent domestic violence.

We End Violence

We End Violence believes that the majority of men want to do no harm and want to play an active role in preventing violence—they simply need to be empowered and taught how to do it. Involving men in violence prevention through programming that doesn’t blame or criticize them, but instead motivates them and demonstrates how they can lead our culture away from violence.

“Violence happens, and it happens far too often. The good news is that we can end violence before it happens, and support those who have been victimized by it. This is not about being a superhero. It’s about each person taking little actions every day—actions that promote healthy relationships, compassion and equality. Together, each of us can make a choice to take action and end violence,” said Jeffrey Bucholtz, director of We End Violence. 

SAY San Diego Dad’s Club

This innovative program engages fathers to be involved in their children’s education. SAY San Diego manages clubs at over 24 San Diego elementary schools, with a special concentration on schools in Mid-City and Southeast San Diego with meetings and activities ranging from building reading and math skills to discussion on violence prevention. 

YWCA Walk A Mile in Her Shoes

YWCA Walk a Mile in Her Shoes began in October 2008 during National Domestic Violence Awareness month for a fun and lighthearted way to build awareness of the prevalence of domestic violence and its negative impacts on any community. Men (and women) are invited to walk one mile in downtown San Diego in high heeled shoes to raise awareness and lead the way to ending domestic violence while raising much needed funds for Becky’s House Domestic Violence Program.

Operation For HOPE Foundation is honored to partner with celebrity athletes and male mentors who have shown their commitment to the prevention of domestic violence and support of community resources.

National organizations and programs:

On a national level, Futures without Violence, Coaching Boys into Men Program reaches out to men as fathers, brothers, coaches, teachers, uncles, and mentors in the role they play in coaching boys into men.

Other men’s groups that are creating awareness of the issues include:

Men Stopping Violence: menstoppingviolence.org/

Men Against Domestic Violence: dvsolutions.org/programs/MenAgainstDV.aspx

Love is Not Abuse, JOINS, Break the Cycle: loveisnotabuse.com/web/guest/home

Men ending Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault in Texas: main.org/sangati/menantidv.html

As we continue to engage our San Diego community in the prevention of domestic violence, Operation for HOPE Foundation is honored with the support, collaboration and participation of the men and women committed to the cause.

We are not only raising awareness about this important issue, we are raising HOPE Funds that will go directly to helping domestic violence victims and their families in an emergency or critical time of need.

Click here to learn more about the HOPE Fund.


15 Comments

  • Elle

    Are Black people more homophobic than other people?
    School Yard Bully
    A community reacts to the death of 11-year-old Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover, who committed suicide after months of antigay taunts…and little action from his school.
    Click the byline to view more stories by this author.By William McGuinness
    An Advocate.com exclusive posted April 13, 2009
    Sirdeaner Walker, who has survived domestic violence, homelessness, and breast cancer, knew death could come suddenly — but she could not have predicted it would find her 11-year-old son first.

    Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover was a sixth-grader at New Leadership Charter School in Springfield, Mass. There, many of his classmates were initially strangers, as few of his friends from Alfred Glickman Elementary followed him.

    On April 6, Sirdeaner Walker came home, walked up the stairs to the second floor of her home, and saw her son suspended from a support beam in the stairwell, swaying slightly in the air, an extension cord wrapped around his neck, according to police. He apologized in a suicide note, told his mother that he loved her, and left his video games to his brother.

    Walker said her son had been the victim of bullying since the beginning of the school year, and that she had been calling the school since September, complaining that her son was mercilessly teased. He played football, baseball, and was a boy scout, but a group of classmates called him gay and teased him about the way he dressed. They ridiculed him for going to church with his mother and for volunteering locally.

    "It’s not just a gay issue," Walker said. "It’s bigger. He was 11 years old, and he wasn’t aware of his sexuality. These homophobic people attach derogatory terms to a child who’s 11 years old, who goes to church, school, and the library, and he becomes confused. He thinks, Maybe I’m like this. Maybe I’m not. What do I do?"

    His birthday, April 17, falls this year on the 13th National Day of Silence, a day on which individuals observe vows of silence for students bullied at school.

    But instead of silence, Walker wants action from the school, which she said continuously ignored her, chalking the situation up to student immaturity. She said that every day her son left for school, he walked into a "combat zone" assigned to him because of his inner-city address. But he would not point a finger at specific classmates for fear he’d be called a "snitch."

    Walker said that she is angry with teachers and administrators for not taking action, and she called on the state of Massachusetts last week to probe the school, hoping she might prevent other children from feeling as her son did.

    "A lot of parents don’t know the avenues open to them. A lot of parents don’t know where to turn," Walker told The [Springfield] Republican.

    In the days following Walker-Hoover’s death, parents and community members have grown increasingly critical of the school system’s approach to bullies and peer abuse, further fueled by administrators refusing to comment to local media.

    Hilda Clarice Graham, an expert on bullies and a school safety consultant with International Training Associates, said students often use assumed sexual orientation as a main weapon against one another. "It’s the hammer that hurts the most and is the most vulnerable and hurtful thing going," she said.

    Nearly half of children between the ages of 9 and 13 have been bullied, and nearly 10% of those students say it happens on a daily basis, according to a study by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. In a 2007 Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network study, 86% of LGBT students said that they had experienced harassment at school during the previous year.

    Days prior to Carl Walker-Hoover’s suicide, he confronted a female bully who verbally accosted him. The event served as an apparent catalyst to Walker’s suicide. The school’s response was to have the two students sit beside one another during lunch for the next week to encourage conversation.

    Graham says the school’s response is not ideal because "for mediation to work, there must be equal power." She said bullies’ goals are to hurt, and to depend on them to feel remorseful is not an effectual way to deal with them — that victims are at a disadvantage when trying to make peace alone.

    Graham added that schools should handle bullying on a small scale to avoid large-scale responses to tragic events.

    “It’s the most dramatic call to action a school can receive," she said. "Parents want a guarantee that this will never happen again."

    Many residents came out in support of the Walker family in a school-sponsored vigil last Thursday night. Walker says school officials didn’t invite her to the event. She said she heard from others but chose not to attend.

    School superintendent Alan J. Ingram said on Thursday that cases of bullying must be addressed quickly and fairly, but added that many of the state’s charter schools are autonomous and have their own policies. He said 11
    Most of the people,the victim and the bullies were Black. Furthermore I keep seeing similar situations were young Black kids are mercilessly teased for not fitting the thug look and culture. Maybe I didn’t word my question right, I’m asking "Does gangsta culture cause young Black people to be more homophobic?". And if you don’t got a good answer, please don’t talk

  • TRAINING DAY

    nope. whites are more homophobic. black ppl who are uncomfortable with gays might shun them but all the gay killing cases has been by a white dude
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  • Benji K

    Umm yea on like this show on mtv like all the african americans were homophobic i think that it might be a coincadence but im caucasion and homophobic soo…
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  • 360

    No, that is a stereotype. Black people this, White people that, Asian women this, Spanish men that…all fall into stereotypes. Within every creed there are models, homophobes, wealthy people, sloppy people, business men, religious fanatics, conservatives, raged stricken people, criminals, cripples, the list goes on. There is no one trait or characteristic that can only be found in one race. All civilizations contain an array of different types of individuals.
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  • Sista Soldier

    Answering the original question(not reading your details)
    I think the American blacks are more accepting of it.(which is sad to say) I think many american blacks(old fashioned ones) don’t accept it.
    In the same breath there is a level of acceptance. I believe that whites accept gay’s more openly(depending on what area you are in) next would be all other minorities.
    I think acceptance of Gayism mostly depends on your religion and beliefs, more than race.
    People forget that "homosexuality" is not a noun it is an adjective. It just describes a humans sexuality, that is all. Just because someone disagrees with what someone is, doesnt mean they hate (true many people that disagree hate, but DEFINITELY not all) if that were the case, they’d continue hating even if the person happens to turn heterosexual.
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  • FoxForceFiveVega

    So what part of this is about black people being more homophobic? In all actuality…when children of that age call each other "gay"…it simply doesn’t mean the same thing that you and I as adults think it means. It is a form of bullying, but actually has not much to do with the "gay" community. It’s a ‘fad’ thing that kids are calling each other gay these days. I don’t agree with it, but that’s what it is. This kid was bullied and I hate to hear what he decided to do. Schools should most definitely take much more action when it comes to bullies. I have heard my children call each other ‘gay’ and got all over them. I asked them why they would do that…they explained it as just a thing kids are calling each other…I don’t think they really get the true meaning. I forbid them to say it b/c I know the struggles gay people are already going through and we don’t need children using this word to put each other down to make it like being gay is something negative. Kids will be kids, but when it’s being taken too far it needs to be addressed immediately so that something like this doesn’t happen. As far as black people being more homophobic, I actually would disagree with this. I would think it’s the religious conservative white people who teach it from birth that being gay is wrong would make the top of the list for homophobes.
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  • Sara Wylde

    Ok…

    Your question is based on colour not geographical location. Not that geographical location dictates how you think. But it does dictate the people around you and their beliefs might more readily become yours.

    Black (and white,pink, red, whatever) is a colour, yes some folks have it as a skin pigment. But it is not a society… or a belief system… regardless what some peeps might tell you.
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  • ♥ Diamond Doll ♥

    No. What does the story have to do with black people?

    To answer your question regarding "gangsta culture," I think that one of the mistakes that all of us, black, white, and otherwise make as Americans is assuming that "gangsta culture" *is* black culture, when it is not. That is the same as assuming that "redneck culture" is white culture. Do I feel that "gangsta culture" is intolerant of homosexuals? Perhaps, but so are some sub-groups in white culture and in other cultures. Do I feel that blacks as a whole are less tolerant of homosexuals than whites or other races? My answer is still no. I’ve known enough people of enough ethnic backgrounds to know that the worst thing that one can ever do is assume that all people of a certain race feel exactly the same way. I have met plenty of black people who have no problem with homosexuals (myself included).

    EDIT: I’ve heard similar stories involving Caucasian kids. I still don’t think that the story proves anything. Children of all races harass other children by calling them "gay." That is a product of a flaw in American culture in general, it is not particular to any race. American society as a whole is still learning to accept homosexuals. I don’t think race has anything to do with that, it’s just our culture, and it’s changing slowly.
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  • Mr. Bitter

    Wow! That was a long post.

    But I do not disagree with you.

    If you want a quick way to prove your point. go to the "Rap" forum and post a question about Biggie Smalls being on the "down low’.

    The flames and personal attacks alone will prove your point.
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